Parenting Devotion 1

Parenting Devotion 1

As we were getting ready for the drive back to New Jersey our car started leaking antifreeze. We were rushing a bit this morning so I wasn’t able to have devotion with the kids. So as we were sitting and waiting for our car to get worked on I pulled out my Ipad so we could do it as a family. Today’s devotion topic was Parents. It was about children obeying their parents no matter how hard it is. It taught our children that we are only here to protect them, love them, and to prevent them from making big mistakes in life. God gave them our children to us for a reason and only we can teach them certain things. 

 “Listen my son to your fathers instruction, and do not forsake your mothers teaching” Proverbs 1:8
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Just do it!

ImageHey everyone! I went away this past weekend so between that and baking for Valentines day, I had a very busy week and was unable to write anything. I wanted to give you guys a recipe, devotion, or something. I just did not have the time but I hope that everyone had a great Valentine’s Day.  Last week, I really challenged myself to step up my baking skills and do something that I haven’t done before. I worked with fondant when I did my daughters first birthday cake and in my cake decorating classes but that was it. I decided that I really wanted to create some awesome cakes but I was super nervous about trying it out. People who know me well know that I am a perfectionist and my own worst critic. So I wanted everything to be perfect but I kept telling people I couldn’t do it when I never tried. Yes, I definitely wanted more experience but that was no excuse, especially since I knew the basics. I then got an order for a two tier baby shower cake! I didn’t even know how to tier a cake! Instead of turning the job down as I always do, I took it! Whenever I bake anything I ask God to bless my hands and guide me so that I can do my very best. Then as I was working on the topper of my cake I suddenly grew very confident about the work that I am capable of. My cake ended up coming out very well and now I can’t wait to step out the box and try new things! What do you guys think of it? Has this happened to anyone else? Please comment and share your experiences.

Mommy Challenge

Mommy Challenge

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There are many challenges that mommies face on a daily basis. My most challenging areas of life are:

  1. Finances – Budgeting for a family of six and saving with one income.
  2. Spiritual Food – I must have a prayer and devotional life.
  3. Me Time – How can I care for my husband and nurture my children the right way when I don’t take of myself?
  4. Task Management – I have so much to do, with so little time to do it.
  5. Wifely Duties – After my relationship with God comes Shaun. As moms, we sometimes get so caught up with taking care of the little ones that our spouse’s needs get overlooked. Some may have issues with this notion, but your husband comes before your children.

After Ari was born and I got into the routine of being home, I began to realize what was most important in my life. My family. The boys needed nurturing and I didn’t want to miss the same time with Ari as I had missed with them, being a single working mother. When I was working, family time was meaningful but minimal. Sometimes it was nonexistent because I was burnt out from the long hours dealing with customers. Once I was able to stay home, I saw an immediate change in the boys because they knew I’d be there if they ever needed me. Staying home was great but it brought its own challenges. I’m not perfect, yet, but I believe I have some tricks to help you if these are challenges for you, as well.

Budgeting – Trying to make a family of six work on one income is challenging but doable! God always amazes me with how he makes provision when things seem bleak. Shaun works hard for us to have everything we need but sometimes I want more. Who doesn’t? Even though God makes a way for us, I still have to do my part and make sure we’re getting the most bang for our buck. One thing I do to stretch those dollars is research deals and sales before I purchase. If we use a lot of one item, I go to Costco instead of our regular grocery store. So the first mommy challenge is: Itemize your grocery list and decide which items would work best if you bought it wholesale. It may cost a bit more upfront, but the savings will show over time. With the money you save, you can treat yourself to a nice lunch at your favorite bistro.

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Spiritual Food – How can I raise Godly children if I don’t have a personal relationship with God? Prayer, along with reading and studying the Bible is a must! We as parents must set the example for our children to follow. If you are a Sundays ONLY Christian, your children will grow up thinking it’s ok to only give God a part of them instead of all of them. Don’t feel you have time? Make time. People make time for what they think is important in their lives. So my second challenge is: Rise early and feed yourself some spiritual food! Before the kids and hubby get up, commune with God so you can set the tone for you and your family’s day. You can read more on daily devotions in ‘And then there were Four’.

Me Time – Moms please make sure that you get some Me Time! I cannot stress enough how important this is. Even if it is just ten minutes, get away from everything and everyone associated with your house and just… be. Get the time you need. SAHMs, this can be especially hard for us since we get no days off. We’re always on the clock making the home work so getting away is nearly impossible. But for your family’s sake and your sanity, find a time when you can get away. One way I found the time was taking cake decorating classes. The class was only two hours once a week, but it gave me time to myself. No kids, no husband, just me and my piping bag. I was able to get my mind off things and do something that I wanted instead of catering to the wants and needs of my family. You cannot effectively care for your family without taking care of you, as well! So my third challenge is: Find something you like to do, that’s only for you, schedule it and do it. Be sure to share your plans with your husband, so he’s available to hold down the fort in your absence.

Task Management – My day is so repetitive that it sometimes makes me crazy. Going through the motions often make me feel like I haven’t accomplished anything, when, in all actuality, everything I needed to get done is done. Homeschooling Arianna with playtime and song time built in, taking care of Raelynn, helping the boys with homework and projects. All of this while still having to cook and clean! My day would put most people in a mental hospital but that’s what MOTHERHOOD is! My fourth challenge is: Make a daily schedule for everything you have to do and live by it! As the saying goes, “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Having a plan for your day and sticking to it, eliminates procrastination and the feeling of being overwhelmed. You can even schedule other things like Me Time and Spiritual Food.

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Wifely Duties – Last but not least, our husbands. I saved this part for last because, after God, they are most important. Our husbands are the head and we are the neck. If the head is not properly supported by the neck, it causes pain and discomfort, subsequently causing problems to the rest of the body. Our husbands need a good meal, our attention and love, our words of encouragement and prayers, and most importantly, our good lovin’ and good lovin’, and some more good lovin’. My fifth and final challenge is: No matter what your day is like or how you feel when you’re done being a mom for the day, TAKE CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND. He’s the king of your castle and you should be willing and available to do whatever he needs. When your husband’s needs are put first, you will definitely see your marriage go to another level. Our husbands should feel like they can conquer the world and give it to us. When husband and wife are on one accord, the entire household will fall right into place.

Until next time….Lady Ki

The Godly SAHM

The Godly SAHM

Last night while I was reading I came across this interesting Christian article about the roles of parents. Today I’m only going to write about the stay at home mom. 

 
Staying at home is not just about cleaning, cooking, running errands, and taking care of the family. We are not just supposed to be watching our children but also nurturing them! Home is where our children learn everything, including who they are. It all starts at home! Children should be taught about God at home, not only in church. Being a sahm is not easy and I sometimes struggle with doing everything. I am really just learning that nurturing the children is my the second priority. The first is my husband! Which means, if the floor doesn’t get vacuumed because the children needed help with homework, then that is ok. 
 
Recently, my oldest son has been acting out. When I talked to him to see what’s bothering him he says that nothing is wrong. My husband and I started to think that maybe we were doing something wrong. Then I began to ask myself, “Are you nurturing him in the way that he needs?” As the boys get older and more independent sometimes I forget that they still need me. Not just to cook them food, buy things for them or help them with homework. They need me to teach them, pray with/for them, do fun things with them, etc,. I want my children to be smart,happy, loving, confident, God-fearing children! That all starts at HOME!
 
Going forward my plan is to make sure that everyday I am using the majority of my time and energy to invest in each one of my children. Of course I won’t forget about my hubby! Every morning before the boys go off to school we will have devotion and I will pray with them. I wish I would have started this when they were a little younger. Better late than never. I just want them to know how important it is to have a relationship with God. This starts today! I will also be posting our Daily devotions (YouVersion).
Feel free to join me!
 
– Ki
Pushing Through The Pain

Pushing Through The Pain

Being the daughter of a pastor isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. People always expected so much from me all the time. The majority of my teenage years all I did was try to get closer to God. Then there was shift in my life. When I was 18, something happened to someone very close to me in church and from that point on I thought I needed a break from church.  From there I started making all the wrong decisions! I started dating a drug dealer and quickly became pregnant. I knew that I didn’t want that life for my child so I left that boyfriend alone (he didn’t want a baby anyway).  When my son was about a year I started dating my ex husband. Have you ever felt like you just didn’t want to be alone? That’s how I felt and I just wanted to be married. So we got married, had a baby, and the marriage only lasted about two years. We then separated. I felt so much pain! I kept letting my family down knowing we had an image to uphold. I just failed at everything! I was a single mother working a decent job and taking care of my babies alone (with the support of my parents of course). I felt so empty and tired of everything. Finally, I decided that enough was enough and went back to church consistently. Being human we always tend to make promises to God. Only he knows if we really plan on keeping them.

“Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait I say on the Lord.” Psalms 27:14

I am one of those people who forgive and love everyone. Whatever was done to me, I wouldn’t dwell on it. As soon as I put God first in my life again, my situation changed almost immediately! The blessings came from everywhere! I was blessed with a nice two bedroom apartment and I really needed my space. Then God sent me my wonderful husband! It’s funny how God works because I met my husband in high school and really just wanted to be his friend. I knew he was interested in me at that time but I had no clue how much until we reconnected. Now we are happily married with three children! He didn’t even hesitate to make my children our children! Everyday I thank God for keeping my mind and heart and allowing me to love my husband unconditionally. All I did was wait on the Lord. Sometimes we want to do things in our own time and that’s where we run into these crazy situations. God may not move when you want him to but he is always on time! God is such a jealous God and all he wants is a relationship with us. We make time for relationships with everyone else. What about God? Is there something in your life that you desire? If it is God’s will then you shall have whatever it is (when he says so). I pushed through the pain, can you?

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalms 37:4

New Baby, New Business

New Baby, New Business

Every mother who desires to be with her children dreads the day that she has to return to work. In NJ, they usually give you six weeks paid and sometimes twelve weeks unpaid  when your baby is born. Who wants to leave their six-week old baby with someone they don’t even know? I couldn’t do it! Every time I turned on my television someone was killing, abusing, or taking a child! When my youngest was born I started to ask myself, “How can I do this? How can I stay home and care for our children?” I automatically started to worry about going back to work and our finances. At the time, I was the one bringing in the most money. I automatically started to worry!

” Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34

Instead of worrying, I decided to bring this one to God. Faith is believing in something that is unseen. The bible clearly states, “For we walk by faith, not by sight” II Corinthians 5:7. It was time to exercise my faith! I started acting as though my household was my only job! I just knew I wasn’t going back to that other job! About a month and a half before the baby was born, my husband started to reach out to people for a teaching job. He took the state exam, passed it and just needed to get certified. He ended up getting a teaching job with the first phone call that was made! The favor of God is truly on our lives! My husbands new job ended up paying for his certification and his salary was much more than we were previously making combined!

“And my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches and glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

I decided to share my testimony because you might not have any idea what God has in store for you! He can make your impossible possible!

After staying home with my beautiful baby girl I wanted to somehow contribute. “God how can I be that Proverbs 31 woman who contributes while taking care of her home?”, I asked. Then I decided to start my bakery. I wanted the church to first try-out my sweets so I would know if they were good enough to sell. It took me two months to do that! This fear took over me! Fear is a topic for another day, but after receiving positive feedback I decided to start Ki’s Sweets.

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Virtuous Woman…

Virtuous Woman
“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10

 
Proverbs 31- The Virtuous Woman
This is my first blog so here it goes……
 
Being this woman that God ordained all woman to be is indeed no easy task. I am a stay at home mom which comes with many tasks, responsibilities, and no days off. Cleaning, cooking, shopping, changing diapers, running errands, school pickups and drop offs, homework, extracurricular activities, choir rehearsals, and the list goes on and on. I know that other moms can definitely relate to the chaos I deal with on a day to day basis.
 

So how in the world can I be this virtuous woman of God? This is a question I ask myself every morning when I step out of bed. That is the problem right there! I am asking myself when I should be asking God during those talks that we are supposed to be having every morning! The scriptures are VERY clear when it comes to how we should treat our husbands and care for our families. If you are not sure what our role entails, I will give you the shortened version of what this woman should be:

  • She is righteous.
  • She is worth more than rubies and is intelligent.
  • She is trustworthy and always does the right thing.
  • She comforts, praises, and always encourages her husband.
  • She works diligently in her household (not lazy and always find things to do for her family).
  • She rises before her family to spend time with God. -Sometimes it is so hard to get up before its really time to in the morning!
  • She feeds her household (cooks healthy meals).
  • She tries to find ways to contribute (old testament-from her home, today- she may or may not leave the home to work). – This is the reason I started my business Ki’s Sweets.
  • She exercises!
  • She is always willing to help those in need.
  • She makes sure her family is clothed (we shouldn’t have any issues shopping lol).
  • She teaches and speaks wisdom.
  • She is kind.
  • She fears the Lord!

Now that you know what is required to be a virtuous woman, how do you plan to incorporate them into your daily lives? God wants us to be the best that we can be. He gives us all the tools that we need to succeed. Honestly, sometimes I struggle with using them. How about you? It is time to step out, do the unthinkable, and exercise our faith!

Until next time…….

Ki